Warning: this post will be blunt, if not graphic. It’s in the nature of the subject matter… some things just have to be said directly, avoiding aphorisms and other distractions.
I’ve been meaning to sit down for quite some time to ramble out the various thoughts and conclusions regarding male sexuality that have been swirling around my personal ecosystem for, well, probably decades. Recently, various ideas have coalesced into a coherent whole which now stands in needing of a proper venting. Here goes.
Everything about male sexuality can be explained under one simple notion — the need for DNA to replicate itself.
Simply put, DNA’s primary mission is to ensure that it’s information is transmitted into the next generation.
While this is similar to explaining male sexual appetites under the guise of a “need to breed”, it deviates slightly when seen from the perspective of DNA’s need to replicate, mainly because it’s an informational exchange, which also more clearly explains the constant barrage of informational stimulus a man receives on a moment-to-moment, daily basis. I’ll explain.
When a man spots ‘a nice rack’, DNA is sending him a signal that he should make contact. For the simple reason that full, shapely breasts are often an indication that offspring are more likely to survive.
When a man sees a hot ass, DNA is sending a double signal — a nice ass is usually an indication of child-bearing hips as well as a visual echo of breasts, which are so critical to DNA’s survival. Men are also drawn to attractive behinds, simply because the “rear entry position” (i.e. doggy style) is THE most common sexual position in the natural world. To be blunt, we see a hot ass and instantly are flooded with a desire to mount it, regardless of whether the woman attached to it wants to be mounted or not.
These signals, which a man feels as a rush of sexual desire, can also be triggered by full red lips and cheeks (an indication of health), overall beauty (which signifies higher likelihood of further generational transmission) and a host of other minor “informational inputs”. Remember, DNA itself is pure information. It’s mission is to replicate and it has evolved over the millennia to deliver highly sophisticated messages to the male brain for the purpose of it’s own survival, regardless of how we feel about it.
What DNA understands is that it must send a constant barrage of these messages to the male brain if it has any hope of being passed on to the next generation. Factor in female rejection, the relatively small frequency of egg fertilization and (historically at least) the low odds of survival for birthed offspring and DNA has evolved to be certain of one thing — either it must constantly stimulate a man’s sexual desires (causing him to release copious amounts of sperm in as many females as possible) or it won’t survive.
Further substantiation of this theory of male sexuality for DNA propagation can be found in what I think of as “tribal groupings.” As humans we have a much longer history of existing in small tribal units versus towns or the ever-evolving mega-cities of the moment. Therefore, when it comes to male sexuality, we often perceive our environment in terms of small tribal units. On a bus, in a restaurant, in a park… wherever we go, most men size up their present environment to find who is the most attractive “sperm recipient” at any given moment. (Sorry ladies, I know you’re much more than that, but I’m strictly speaking here from the POV of DNA.) This perception of small groups, similar to that of a tribal unit, is further proof of DNA’s mission and how it hasn’t evolved in one key respect.
You see, DNA doesn’t have a clue that we’re no longer running around in tribal units, nor does it know about the complex social and cultural conventions regarding male/female relations, condoms, pornography or any of the myriad distortions and manifestations of male sexuality that have arisen over the ages.
As has been long asserted by neurologists, what the brain sees, it believes. So when a man jerks off to porn (in its many variations), DNA is convinced that its mission is being fulfilled. Men feel relief not simply because an orgasm is pleasurable, or that stored-up sperm has been cleared out for a fresh batch. These sensations exist because DNA wants it that way, otherwise it won’t survive.
I honestly can’t say whether anyone will find the above thesis illuminating or not. It seems likely that a woman could re-write this from the feminine perspective, assuming that there is a commensurate explanation for their sexual desires and its connection to DNA replication. What is also missing from this thesis is accounting for homosexuality in terms of DNA propagation; having no experience in the subject, I also have no authority to posit alternative theories.
Personally, coming to understand this simple fact of DNA propagation has helped put into context the never-ending barrage of stimulus that is the source of so much continuous, daily distraction. It doesn’t reduce the stimulus, but at least makes it easier to not be controlled by it.
The real question in my mind is when DNA will evolve to understand that males no longer need to release sperm every other day in order to assure its survival. In other words, DNA simply hasn’t caught up to the fact that infant mortality has declined dramatically and that there is an abundance of potential partners available now, compared to its persistent insistence in perceiving those tribal groupings.
There can be no doubt that the world would be a much more peaceful place were DNA to evolve in this manner, allowing the release of so much continuous pressure on the male system. (The damaging affects of this constant frustration would surely make for another lengthy essay…)
Perhaps what DNA simply needs is for self-awareness of its intent to occur in its host before this evolution can finally take place.
Ahh, but if only it was that simple…
